Few things stir up as much curiosity, excitement, awkwardness, and anxiety as anal sex.

Whether you’ve tried it, thought about it, backed out halfway, or shut it down the second it was mentioned — chances are you’ve got questions. And chances are, you’ve heard some myths that make it harder to approach with curiosity and care.

Let’s break down five of the biggest misconceptions about anal, with research, real talk, and zero shame. Wherever you’re starting from, you’re not behind — you’re exactly where you need to be.

1. “It’s not natural.”

If “natural” means existing in nature, anal is absolutely natural. Giraffes, dolphins, dogs — they all engage in anal behaviors.

The idea that a body part’s “primary purpose” makes it off-limits sexually doesn’t hold up. Hands, mouths, breasts, even penises (hello, urination) serve nonsexual purposes too. Sex is about pleasure, connection, creativity — not just reproduction.

2. “It’s a new thing.”

Nope — anal sex is not some modern trend sparked by porn.

Humans have been having anal sex for as long as we’ve had bodies. Ancient Moche pottery from Peru shows anal acts in loving detail; Greek texts openly discuss pleasure and the need for lube.

What shifted historically? The rise of Christianity. Biblical interpretations of the Sodom story labeled anal immoral — but many scholars now argue the real issue was lack of consent, not the specific act. So yes, anal sex is normal and has deep cultural history.

3. “It’s just for the man.”

This is one of the most common — and most unfair — assumptions.

Studies show women engage in anal for a wide range of reasons: unique sensations, stronger orgasms, emotional intimacy, taboo excitement, and sexual curiosity. Yes, partner pleasure matters — but no more than it does in vaginal sex.

While porn can influence curiosity, remember: search data shapes algorithms, not just the other way around. And let’s be real — mainstream porn often shows a rushed, male-centered, unrealistic version of anal that skips prep, communication, lube, and aftercare. That’s why I intentionally include those pieces in my own content — to set a healthier, more realistic standard. See more here.

4. “It’s painful.”

Wondering, is anal sex supposed to hurt? Short answer: no — not with proper prep and communication.

Yes, pain is common at first — 66% of women report pain during their first anal experience — but over half also report pain the first time they have vaginal intercourse.

The real issue? Lack of education and prep. Almost 49% didn’t use lube during their first anal experience. Only 9% of people report consistent pain with anal which is similar rates to vaginal intercourse. With good knowledge, patience, communication, protection and the right lube, many people go on to enjoy anal — some even prefer it.

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5. “It’s dangerous.”

Anal does carry extra risks — but most can be minimised with education.

The anus has a thin membrane, making STI transmission easier. That’s why using condoms and lube is crucial. Lube reduces tearing and improves comfort. And yes, hygiene matters, but you don’t need to be “squeaky clean” — there are gentle, realistic ways to prep.

Studies often highlight STI or incontinence risks, but when you account for protection and good practices, the risks shrink significantly. Avoiding education increases danger — informed, curious exploration reduces it.

My Anal Story (Yep, Sharing This)

Here’s the truth: I didn’t incorporate anal into my regular sex life until recently — and yes, I literally caught my “backdoor cherry pop” on camera.

Before that, I’d tried and backed out (pun intended) because of anxiety and discomfort. But once I learned about how to prepare for anal sex — using lube, exploring positions, relaxing my body — everything changed.

Now, sometimes I genuinely enjoy anal more than vaginal sex. I orgasm more easily, I love the focused communication it requires, and it feels intimate and special in a way I hadn’t expected.

If you’re curious but nervous, trust me: you’re not weird, you’re not behind, and there’s no “right” timeline. Go at your own pace.

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Takeaway

Anal isn’t wrong, gross, or reserved for certain kinds of people. It’s just another way to experience pleasure — and you deserve to explore it with curiosity, care, and zero shame.

Wherever you are on your journey, you belong in this conversation.

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Love Always,

Alice x