At the weekend I interviewed the public on the topic of Sex education. It was enlightening to say the least, and so fun. I’m appreciative of everyone that spoke to me and will definitely be doing it again. Reflecting on the conversations I had I came to the realisation that I believe the single biggest issue with Sex education is the avoidance of teaching sex for pleasure.

Sure sex is for procreation sometimes, but the primary reason most people are having sex is because it feels good, or should feel good. By avoiding teaching sex for pleasure we are causing so many problems! The greatest perhaps being the issue of consent. If everyone learned that sex should ultimately be something that feels good and we want to do, perhaps we would be more inclined to say no when it isn’t feeling good.

Additionally we then have the problem with the lack of LGBTQ+ inclusion in Sex education, and discussion of anything other that penis in vagina sex, which ultimately is such a small part of sex, if it’s a part at all. We lack education around anal, oral, and other sexual intimacies, or even how to be skilled and confident in the bedroom. We close down conversations around kink, relationships, hook ups, multiple partner fun, toys, solo play, and more.

Ultimately it had me asking why? Why is it such an issue to teach about sex for pleasure. Fear of promoting sex? What would be so wrong about that, if promoted in a way that encourages safety? I don’t have the answers, maybe you do? In which case I would love to hear, but it’s something I want to change. Acceptance of our sexual selves, the ability to talk openly, explore, learn, connect and give ourselves pleasure, surely is a good thing.

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Alice x

Alice Lovegood

A Sex Educator, life coach and spicy content creator, Alice wants to open up the conversation around sex and intimacy and help you feel at home in your body, celebrated and valued exactly as you are.

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