I remember the days of turning off the lights, avoiding being naked in front of loved ones, and holding back because of self-consciousness about my body. In this post, I share the key changes that boosted my self-esteem, improved body confidence, and ultimately transformed my life for the better.

Over the last few years I have gone on an incredible transformation in not only how I look but how I feel about my body. Most people will omit my confidence to my weight loss but the truth is I have just as many hang ups, if not more, now than I did when I was 5 stone heavier. The biggest change of all came from starting to create content and realising that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Some of the things I most hated about myself, got the most attention, and I learned that the things we are taught to dislike, are the very same things we are ‘sold’ solutions to. There are just as many fans of big tummy’s, stretch marks and cellulite as there are flat tummy’s, peachy bottoms and big boobs. It is not in society’s interest to support people to feel confident and happy in their body. Think of the billions of pounds people would stop spending on diets, creams, workout plans, makeup, fillers and surgery if they didn’t need to attain to this impossible standard of beauty.

Confidence is beautiful, owning your sexuality and knowing yourself and your needs is beautiful. YOU. ARE . BEAUTIFUL. Everything from the way you smile, the way your voice sounds, the curves of your body, the softness of your skin, how you smell and hold yourself. Everything about you is beautiful to someone. I want you to think about a person you love, a child, a friend, a partner. I don’t know about you but when I love or care for someone they suddenly glow, I notice little things about them that I never noticed before and I pick out the bits I love, I don’t see the rest.

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It was this realisation that started to build my confidence in my body, I essentially started faking it until I made it. The constant positive response from my audience to my authentic body, and the connections I made with people in real life eventually overwrote the untrue belief system I had created that my body was not enough, not desirable and not worthy of admiration. Because obviously that wasn’t true, 254 thousand people following me, 5000 people paying money to see my mum bod in all its glory, are proof of that every day, and If I wouldn’t tell this negative inner dialog to a loved one, why on earth was I telling it to myself? All it was doing was keeping me in the rat race, paying money convincing myself that if I achieved that body, that look, I would be successful. But no, you don’t need to wait, you can do it right now, exactly as you are. Sure some people may not like it, but for want for better words, fuck em. There are billions of people in the world, attract those that love you as you are, everyone else isn’t worth your time or effort.

The other thing I started doing was appreciating my body. I would look in the mirror and thank it for all the things it does for me; how it protects me from illness everyday, how it keeps me warm and safe from the elements, how it allows me to experience joy and pleasure, how it lets me connect with others and love fully. I would pick out the bits I loved and focus on them, touch it softly and kindly, with intention. That intentional love and positivity allowed me to recreate my inner dialog, and from that I became unstoppable.

I want the same for you, I no longer want how you feel about your body to hold you back from anything. Swimming with friends, going on holiday, going on that date, partying all night, wearing that dress, having that orgy. You deserve to LIVE. You deserve to experience all life has to offer, in the body you are in right now.

Love Alice x

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