Squirting gets a lot of attention—on porn sites, in group chats, whispered about in bathrooms at house parties. But for something so hyped, it’s still cloaked in a fog of shame, confusion, and misinformation. Let’s clear that up.

Today, we’re diving into the truth about squirting: what it is, how it works, what holds us back, and how you can explore it without fear of mess or judgment.

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What Is Squirting, Really?

Let’s bust the biggest myth first: no, it’s not just pee, and I’m not really sure why anyone really cares if it is. While it can contain urine, it’s also a mix of fluids released from the Skene’s glands around the urethra. It’s not the same as an orgasm, though it can happen during one or without one. Some people squirt every time they climax and can’t control it, while others never squirt at all. I generally can squirt with a particular technique, but not every time.

There’s a cultural over-obsession with squirting, often because it’s seen as visual proof that something ‘significant’ is happening—something that mimics male ejaculation and performs well on camera. But this lens centres external validation, not embodied pleasure. Let’s bring it back to autonomy: it’s not about what squirting looks like to others, it’s about how it feels to you. Squirting shouldn’t be a goal; it’s an option. It’s one way the body can express pleasure, just as valid, just as variable.

In my experience, there are two main types of squirting: flooding, where liquid pours out in large volumes, and spraying, where it shoots out with force. Some people are one type, some are both.

My Squirting Experience

Before I dive into my own experience, I want to acknowledge how personal and varied squirting is. For some it’s spontaneous, for others it’s responsive, and for many it never happens at all. Although I had squirted on rare occasions randomly, I didn’t consider myself a squirter until I met someone with magic hands who just seemed to know how to make it happen. Learning the technique—and eventually teaching it to others—means I can essentially choose to squirt when I want to, which is a pretty lucky position to be in. Some people find that once they open the floodgates, there’s no going back. For me, it’s an enjoyable, controlled experience that feels good. Even though it’s not orgasmic in the traditional sense, it’s a deeply satisfying release.

My girlfriend now is a prolific squirter, and I absolutely love it; it feels so satisfying to see. Being with her taught me just how much shame still surrounds squirting—hearing her stories of people being grossed out, or of apologising if she squirted on an unprotected bed. The Splash Blanket sheets are now a permanent feature in her bedroom setup, and she’s so much more relaxed and present in the pleasure now that she doesn’t have to worry about making a mess.

Your Arousal System: The Brakes vs the Accelerator

To understand why squirting can feel elusive, we need to talk about your arousal system. Dr. Emily Nagoski describes this beautifully in her Dual Control Model: think of your desire like a car. The accelerator responds to everything sexy—touch, fantasy, novelty. The brakes? That’s everything that turns you off—stress, fear, shame, that overflowing laundry basket in the corner.

If you’re worried about making a mess or feeling self-conscious about how your body might react, you’re hitting the brakes! This is where the Splash Blanket makes a real difference—not just practically, but psychologically. It removes one of the most common barriers to surrendering: the fear of mess. And when that brake is released, pleasure has so much more room to build.

Why the Fear of Mess Is a Mood Killer

Here’s where the cultural narrative does real damage. We’re taught to be tidy. To keep our sexuality quiet, clean, and contained. Squirting? It defies all that. It’s loud, wet, and wildly unpredictable. And if you’ve ever stopped mid-session to grab towels, or worried about ruining the sheets, you know how quickly that fear pulls you out of the moment.

This is exactly why tools like the Splash Blanket exist. It’s not just about keeping your bed dry—it’s about giving your nervous system permission to relax. No stress, no shame, just space to explore. People can be so focused on encouraging the accelerator, buying no end of toys and equipment, and don’t always consider ways to alleviate the brake—that could be the key to release.

Why I’ve Partnered With Splash Blanket

I only partner with brands I actually care about and use—and Splash Blanket hands down comes top of my recommendations. Sure, you can get puppy pads or alternatives, but there’s something so clinical about that. And hello? ADHD—I’m never going to stop play to lay out a pad. I’ll either choose not to squirt or I’ll ruin a mattress. Trust me, I say that from experience.

Splash Blankets are luxurious, stylish, and I use them for everything. I have one just for the house and the children, and when the house was hit with a sick bug last month, we were able to contain and clean so much easier with a Splash Blanket. My absolute favourite? They do actual sheets—not noisy, plasticky ones, but soft bamboo ones that don’t rustle or feel thick. It means we’re permanently ready for every kind of mess, whether it’s an unexpected period arrival or a six-hour squirt session. They’re machine washable, and my mattresses—and my sex life—have never been happier.

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How To Explore Squirting (Without Pressure)

If you’re curious about squirting, start with curiosity—not expectation. Here’s how:

• Solo First: Use your hands or a toy (like a G-spot wand or dildo) to explore internal stimulation. Rocking or pressing against the anterior (belly-side) wall of the vagina can help.
• Find the Sponge: Inside the vagina, by going in and up—and sometimes in and down—you may find a spongy area that feels more and more full with stimulation. This can give resistance as you work it, and for many, it’s the trigger for squirting.
• Use External Pressure: For me, a hand on my lower abdomen pushing down at the same time as the sponge is stimulated is what does the trick. That combination reliably unlocks the release.
• Stay Relaxed: Deep breathing, warm-up time, and removing distractions are key. If you’re tense, your pelvic floor is too.
• Try a Splash Blanket: Lay it down, relax your body, and know you can let go without consequence.
• Use Pressure, Not Speed: Slow, firm strokes tend to work better than frantic thrusting.
• Let Go of Performance: Squirting is not proof of orgasm, or skill, or sexual value. It’s just one of many ways the body can express pleasure.

And if you try and it doesn’t happen? You haven’t failed. You’ve still connected with your body, and that’s always a win.

Embrace the Mess: You Deserve Unapologetic Pleasure

Every time we unlearn shame around our bodies, we create space for deeper, wilder joy. Squirting isn’t about impressing anyone—it’s about freedom. It’s about letting go.

So whether you squirt a little, a lot, or not at all—do it for you. And if mess has been holding you back? Treat yourself to a Splash Blanket and take the pressure off.

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Here’s to soaking the sheets, smashing shame, and finding your flow.

Love Always,

Alice x

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